Sometimes if you fuel up on caution to the point that you’re overloaded it turns into anxiety. In contrast, when you’re too reliant on hope you don’t take enough accountability and action. A balance of both keeps you steady on the road ahead.

Sometimes we’re curious and seek out something “new” and other times we’re comfortable and savor the “old.” In reality, both of these mindsets are valuable.

Sometimes the emphasis on our history gives it enough power to shape the current stories we have about ourselves. However, if part of our story is shaped by our past and our recollection of that past is a little skewed, we might want to take it with a grain of salt…

We draw up ideas of what romance is and despite knowing the fictional roots of it all, we let out a long sigh and dream up not if but when this will be us. With that, come ideas and assumptions about romance, and we’ve collected and rated a few common ones that come up to share just how true (or not true) they may be!

We don’t have to get sucked into this comparison trap. When we tire with the “supposed tos” and the “shoulds” we can turn to these four helpful tips!